Infidelity can be traumatic and is one of the more challenging problems faced in a relationship. While many people are blindsided if and when they find out about a spouse or partner cheating, others may suspect infidelity because of actions that are out of the norm. Show
Consider the following possible signs that your partner is not being faithful. As you can see, some of these signs actually are at odds with one another. This range of possibilities, which is certainly not all-inclusive of everything, shows just how different signs can be from one person to the next. And realize that while there are certain behavioral changes, curious actions, and odd occurrences that, together, may back up your unfortunate hunch, none of the following definitely indicate your partner is cheating. Changes in CommunicationA breakdown in communication is never a positive sign. If you can't get your spouse to communicate (or even fight) with you, they no longer share their day with you, or the words "I love you" are no longer spoken, there's likely an underlying issue. The following signs of stonewalling, which involves refusing to listen to, respond to, or accept what you're saying, may also signal infidelity:
Appearance and HobbiesCertainly, taking care of yourself and devoting yourself to new hobbies and passions or even your work can be positive, but when combined with other suspicious behaviors, the following changes may be cause for concern.
Attitude ChangesYour spouse may experience work stress or problems with other relationships that can lead to changes in attitude. The following might be signs of infidelity, but they could also signal other issues.
Lying and AvoidanceDishonesty in a marriage is a red flag. These avoidance strategies may indicate that your spouse may be cheating.
IndifferenceWhen your spouse shows apathy or lack of interest in things that they used to love, communicate with them to see if there is another reason for the change in engagement. But if you also suspect infidelity, these changes may be further indication of an affair.
Changes in Your Sex LifeIt is not uncommon for there to be fluctuations in the frequency of sex in your marriage. But these signs may indicate the possibility of an affair.
Money IssuesAlmost all marriages undergo some kind of financial stress at one time or another. But you may want to investigate certain money issues when you notice them in your marriage.
A Change in Technology UseInfidelity is often revealed online, in text messages, or phone messages. These tech changes may warrant concern.
How to Deal With a Lying SpouseIn most cases, even when you confront your partner with accusations of cheating, it will be denied. Unless you have hard evidence or irrefutable proof, many people will not admit to infidelity. There are a few ways that you can tell if your spouse is lying. If you keep getting denial and push-back when trying to discuss your concerns with your partner, you may need to get professional help to sort through things. A couples' counselor will be neutral and can help you gain insight into what exactly is going on in your marriage. If your partner refuses to attend, consider individual counseling to help process the mixture of feelings like hurt, shock, fear, depression, shame, and mistrust you're likely experiencing. Caring for your own mental and physical health is essential during this stressful time. In addition to emotional distress, you may be experiencing physical reactions like sleep and eating disturbances (too little or too much), gastrointestinal problems (nausea or diarrhea), and trouble concentrating. To keep up your strength and resolve, try your best to drink plenty of water, exercise, stick to a regular sleep schedule, and eat a healthful diet. A Word From VerywellAgain, there is no definitive way to tell if your partner is cheating without asking directly or catching them in the act. What may be a warning sign in one relationship may be nothing to be concerned about in another relationship. In fact, most signs of infidelity are quite subtle. It is only when the lies and stories stop adding up that the cheating usually comes to light. Don't try to get through coping with unfaithfulness alone. Before you make any decisions about whether or not to end your marriage, it's wise to seek relationship therapy either together or alone. You can even try an online program that may be more convenient. Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read our editorial process to learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.
Thanks for your feedback! What are the first signs of a woman cheating?Signs Your Spouse Could Be Cheating. Changes in Communication.. Appearance and Hobbies.. Attitude Changes.. Lying and Avoidance.. Indifference.. Changes in Your Sex Life.. Money Issues.. A Change in Technology Use.. What are the signs of a guilty wife?Here are seven signs your partner may have a guilty conscience, according to experts.. They Justify Everything. Ashley Batz/Bustle. ... . They Are Overly Emotional. Andrew Zaeh for Bustle. ... . They Have Trouble Sleeping. Ashley Batz/Bustle. ... . They're Avoidant. ... . They Overcompensate. ... . They're Protective Of Their Phone. ... . They Blame You For Things.. What is the behavior of a cheating wife?He/she may be less tolerant and short-tempered with family members. He/she may snap at things that never bothered them before. A cheating spouse will start arguments over small issues to create a distance from their partner.
How do you tell if your wife is lying about cheating?Signs of Lying. Avoiding eye contact.. Being vague, or offering few details.. Body language that is contradictory (such as saying "no" but nodding their head up and down). Body language that is unusual (like fidgeting, rigidity, rubbing brow, playing with hair, or slouching). Continual defensiveness or denying of accusations.. |