From time to time we all get angry. It’s an absolutely normal response to have. But are there other times when you feel angry and you can’t really figure out why? Show
From time to time we all get angry. It’s an absolutely normal response to have. You might stub your toe on the corner of the couch, you might walk into lounge room to discover that your three year old thought the DVD player was a toaster and tried to make some toast, or you might sit behind the wheel of your car to find the battery dead. These are all reasonable reasons to feel your blood boil and make you want to scream and shout and yell. But are there other times when you feel angry and you can’t really figure out why? Or you may get super angry over tiny, little things that really aren’t that important but, in the moment really make you lose your cool?
Living with anger is not a lot of fun… for anyone. It’s tough on the one who’s angry and it can be frightening for family, loved ones and damaging for children to witness. Anger affects us all in different ways and how we express anger can be equally as different. There’s generally two unhealthy ways which we deal with anger. The first one is we have anger explosions. This is when we tend to ‘lose it’ with a raging type of anger. This can be anything from verbal abuse all the way up to physical altercations. Then there’s anger repression where you push all that anger deep down inside where it stays down there just stewing and waiting to bubble up to the surface usually in the form of anxiety and or depression. MensLine Australia Tip SheetManaging your anger On a social level, anger can affect our romantic relationships, our family relationships and the relationships we have with our children. On a personal health and wellbeing level, an ongoing anger issue has the potential to do serious damage to your body. Some short- and long-term health problems that have been linked to unmanaged anger include:
Anger just doesn’t appear from nowhere. If you really want to make a significant change in your life and manage your anger, then it’s probably worth thinking about what some of the underlying issues are that cause you to feel that anger:
The good news is, and we know that this all sound pretty dire, that it doesn’t have to be that way. Anger is a perfectly normal emotion and reaction to many life events. It’s only when it starts to be our dominant emotion that it becomes a problem. So, how do we make sure it doesn’t become our dominant emotion you say? How to express your anger in healthy ways:
Anger is a perfectly normal emotion that you shouldn’t feel guilty or ashamed over. Everybody at many times in their lives has felt angry. But if your anger is something that’s negatively affecting your life then it might be something you need to get a handle on. Remember it’s always better to be happy. But sometimes being happy just takes a little bit of work. If you’re feeling as if your struggling with your anger and you don’t know what to do, you can always pick up the phone and call MensLine. We’re available 24 hours a day, seven days a week to help you out with all your mental health and child tantrum throwing dilemmas. Call us on 1300 78 99 78 or access online counselling. References[1] https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/anger-how-it-affects-people?viewAsPdf=true [2] https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/anger/why-am-i-always-angry-5-reasons-why/ More from how to deal with anger
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